Dating Update

I’m not dating to find “the one.” I’m dating to understand myself better.

After ending a long-term relationship that no longer felt right, I realized I needed to focus on self-discovery. So, we parted ways, and I stepped into the often unpredictable world of dating. It’s been a mix of challenges and insights—less about finding someone else and more about figuring out who I am and what I want.

The experience has been surprisingly reflective. Spending time meeting new people has forced me to confront parts of myself I hadn’t fully considered. For example, I used to feel unsure about my personal style which made getting dressed for a date shockingly stressful. Instead of letting that insecurity linger, I decided to address it. I started experimenting with clothing that felt authentic to me, turning what once felt like a source of doubt into something empowering. Getting dressed is something very basic, and it’s interesting to me that dating is what led me to discover that it was actually an insecurity.

When it comes to finding a partner, I’m not in a hurry. I know the right person will come along when I’m grounded in who I am. What I’m looking for is someone who’s curious, adventurous, and eager to embrace life’s possibilities—a partner who expands my world rather than limits it.

For now, dating is an opportunity to grow and learn—about myself, about relationships, and about what truly matters. It’s not always easy, but it’s a necessary part of the process. And if I come away with a clearer sense of self and a few unexpected lessons along the way, then it’s worth it.